In War of Words, Paul Tripp writes: “Are there places where your words have followed the pattern of the enemy more than the Lord?  Take time to consider, pray, and confess.  Confess to God and the people with whom you live and work.

  1. Are there places where your words challenge the authority of God? (Seeking to take wrongful control, speaking words of condemnation, punishing others with words, undermining the authority of God-appointed leaders, grumbling and complaining about the situations God has ordained for your life, etc.)
  2. Do your words reveal places where you have bought into an interpretation of life different from the Lord’s (as revealed in Scripture)? In other words, does your talk reveal a consistent, biblical view of life that encourages others to look at life the same way? (Example: Outbursts of anger during a traffic jam versus using the time to have a wholesome conversation with your wife and children.)
  3. Has your communication been infected with Satan’s lie that the things you need for life can be found outside of Christ? Examples:
    1. I must win this argument.
    2. I must have her love, appreciation, and respect.
    3. I will get him to admit ‘x’ if it’s the last thing I do!
    4. This is the way it has to be done.
    5. I cannot live with ‘x.’
    6. I have the right to my happiness.

Remember, Christ not only forgives, he delivers.  He not only delivers, he restores.  He not only restores, he reconciles.”

-Paul Tripp, War of Words, pg. 31.