Rosaria Butterfield writes: “Shortly after becoming a Christian, I counseled a woman who was in a closeted lesbian relationship and a member of a Bible-believing church. No one in her church knew. Therefore, no one in her church was praying for her. Therefore, she sought and received no counsel. There was no ‘bearing one with the other’ for her. No confession. No repentance. No healing. No joy in Christ. Just isolation. And shame. And pretense.”
“Someone had sold her the pack of lies that said that God can heal your lying tongue or your broken heart, even cure your cancer if he chooses, but he can’t transform your sexuality. I told her that my heart breaks for her isolation and shame and asked her why she didn’t share with anyone in her church her struggle. She said: ‘Rosaria, if people in my church really believed that gay people could be transformed by Christ, they wouldn’t talk about us or pray about us in the hateful way that they do.’”
“Christian reader, is this what people say about you when they hear you talk and pray? Do your prayers rise no higher than your prejudice?”
“I think that churches would be places of greater intimacy and growth in Christ if people stopped lysing about what we need, what we fear, where we fail, and how we sin. I think that many of us have a hard time believing the God we believe in, when the going gets tough. And I suspect that instead of seeking counsel and direction from those stronger in the Lord, we retreat into our isolation and shame and let the sin wash over us, defeating us again. Or maybe we muscle through on our pride. Do we really believe that the word of God is a double-edge sword, cutting between the spirit and the soul? Or do we use the word of God as a cue card to commandeer only our external behavior?”
-Rosaria Butterfield, The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert, p. 25.
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