“Taking offense is not necessarily a sign of holiness. Often it is a sign of immaturity, even hypocrisy…
As Christians we need to learn to tell the difference between the law of God and our own personal preferences. We may have all kinds of opinions about things like what people ought to wear, what they should eat, how they should run their household, how they should spend their money, what priorities they should have in ministry, or what political position they ought to take. Some of these opinions may be strongly held. We may even believe there are good spiritual reasons for our opinions. The Pharisee certainly had spiritual reasons for thinking that Jesus should wash his hands (Luke 11:37-39).
But are we properly distinguishing between the commands of God and our own code of conduct? When we get offended, we need to make sure it is only for things that God himself truly finds offensive, instead of just pontificating on the basis of our own opinions. Taking offense is not necessarily a sign of holiness. Often it is a sign of immaturity, even hypocrisy.”
-Phil Ryken, Commentary on Luke.